I am not gonna talk politics… I am gonna talk about lives – LIVES affected by the politics. I am a Ukrainian but I was born in Russia. All my life I believed the two countries to be interrelated. And they really are. Or, rather, people of the countries, and cultures, traditions, mentalities and languages (most of the Ukrainians can speak Russian alongside with the Ukrainian, the mother tongue). And, of course, what is most important, is that almost every Ukrainian family has relatives or friends who live in Russia and vice versa. I don’t want to express my views, especially today when it’s hard to believe in any political force. All I can say is I love my country and I respect those Russians who respect me and the people of my country. What’s going on now in the world is a chain of well-staged political games and tricks. It’s really sad to know all the intrigues and provocations negatively affect the relations even between those people who used to be like family. I may not support a policy of our government but I love my Homeland. I think we should follow our own way both in political and social senses, we don’t have to be eager to side with any world power.
So, I am a Ukrainian, as I said. My Love is a Russian. Now we are living in Russia but thinking of moving to Ukraine. There are many Russian-Ukrainian families in our part of the world. It wasn’t a matter of special importance like two years ago because we lived in peace. But the situation is quite different these days. The attitude towards Russians is not the same among Ukrainians. Not everybody realizes it’s politics that destroys our relations. Where to live and how to live? I can either live in Russia with my Love but far from my family and friends, or go back to Ukraine and take my girlfriend along but place her under risk. Well, I have mixed feelings. My period of stay in Russia runs out in autumn and I will have either to prolong it officially or leave the country within the time allowed by law. In this regard we are trying to find the optimal ways to solve the situation. Time is drawing on.
We live here (in Russia) in a metropolis that has a large lgbt community. We can even walk hand in hand along the streets. As to my country and, in particular, the small town I grew up in, it’s like something not of this earth. Yes, believe me or not but I was 18 when I made out the meaning of a word “bisexual”. When I was a teenager me and my friends knew nothing about existence of different sexual orientations. And like all the other girls I dreamt of a prince charming :) I don’t want to live in a big city. I love small towns with fresh air, beautiful nature and people living in peace and quiet. But there is a problem with living in an area like that in my country: everybody knows you and your family. People never stop looking for gossip in my town. And I can’t even imagine what’s gonna happen around me when they get wind of my sexuality. Honestly, I don’t much care what others think of me, but I care for my family. I can move to another place to live, but my family will be staying in the town, and I want a peaceful and comfortable life for them. That’s the only reason why it would be okay to live in a big city. People are usually too busy in a metropolis to poke their nose into someone else’s business.
I read the article about a gay pride parade held in Kiev, the capital of Ukraine, on June, 6. I would not visit the parade on a personal level, it’s not my cup of tea, to be honest. Everyone acts according to their own preferences. I don’t like a noise around me and I am not a fan of public events. But I think people organize lgbt pride parades because they want to be heard and stick up for their rights.
So, let’s return to the parade in Kiev. This is for the first time the president approved it. Of course, other political forces of our country as well as the majority of Ukrainians objected to the idea. The parade was attacked by the unknown. Ok, it’s interesting how the Ukrainians who support the actual president (because he promised to join the European Union and make our country a strong economy) don’t want to support sexual minorites like people in many other European countries do. So, the situation is as follows: we want to be a part of the EU but we are not ready to accept the winds of change.
Sure, the mentality of our nation is quite different from that of the Western world. It makes no sense to impose the other nations’ culture and ways of living upon us. The Ukrainian political forces can introduce the foreign specialists to our official institutions, they can even try to change the standards of our education system, but they will never change our mentality. Instead of binding our hand and foot they should plant love for mankind and uphold tolerance within the society.
…Because love and tolerance are a keystone of any civilized nation.